“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all of the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
– Rumi
I believe, if we don’t have something we want in our present reality, it is because we are blocking it in some way.
Lots of overwhelm can come up when you feel like you’re not where you want to be emotionally or mentally.
Life can get tricky..
But stay in your magic, it’s going to be okay!
Remember, take care of the inside and the outside will work itself out!
Here are 6 barriers that | block | us from our ability to love ourselves.
Most of us can identify with all of these barriers, but make an effort to work on the one or two that truly resonates with you today.
Perfectionism
When you strive to be perfect.. you will always end up feeling like a failure.
Perfectionism is fear.
However well you do, however much you achieve or attain, it will never be ‘enough’ because it will never be perfect.
Perfectionism blinds you to your worth and value, and diminishes the positives and magnifies the negatives.
Perfectionism is an ego trap that keeps you separate from love, acceptance and appreciation.
Perfectionism is fear and can be the strongest barrier of all.
Judgment
When you judge yourself, you are nailing yourself to your mistakes, failings and imperfections. Let yourself off the hook.
The worse you feel about yourself, the less likely you are to heal, change and experience your loving true nature and the goodness, truth and beauty of who you are.
Guilt
Guilt is a form of self-punishment and attack.
Guilt keeps you stuck in the past and prevents you from correcting the ‘mistake’ and moving on.
The guiltier you feel, the more likely you are to re-do, or re-live the thought, word or action that you feel guilty about.
Be gentle with yourself. We’re all doing the best we can.
Repressed emotions
When you ignore, deny or repress your emotions you are not honouring or loving yourself. You are also shutting down your heart from feeling emotions that are necessary for you to feel.
Buried Emotions Dont Die.
When you shut down or bury painful feelings, you shut out the lighter, positive feelings of love, joy and happiness too…
We need to respect our feelings, dark or light, so they can be expressed, released and allowed to move through us.
Comparison
Anytime you compare yourself to somebody else, you are setting yourself up for 2 things; ‘I am better than’ or ‘I am less than’.
This is a game we all play way too much. With social media, comparison has become 2nd nature to most of us too.
Comparison stems from a lack of self-esteem and not being able to recognize your own value.
Remember, you are the love that you seek. No one else is you and that is your power.
Feelings of Unworthiness
A lack of self-love can be rooted in feeling that you don’t deserve “it”, and by it, I mean everything. Your dreams, a certain lifestyle, admiration, success, everything good this world has to offer.
You believe there is something about who YOU are that can’t and won’t get what you desire (but this is lie).
Starting a self-love journey explores self-worth and it’s not the easiest thing to tackle – but once you start to see yourself with more clarity, life will begin to surprise you with your hearts desires.
Please share this post with anyone who needs it.
Personally, feeling unworthy + comparison have been my barriers to break.
Let me know in the comments below which 1 or 2 barriers ring most true for you? Do you feel like I missed a barrier?
Be brave,
Narley
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